Have you ever looked at Facebook or other people’s lives and just felt like they just have everything going for them? This happens to so many people. There are always people that look and seem like they have everything going for them. So what is their secret? How do people get to a place where their lives are just so awesome?
So often we walk through life and we repeat our life style just like what our parents did and live a life similar to how our parents live. It’s a wonder that the super successful people have super successful children. Why? Because the parents have created great habits and their children have seen these habits modeled. We also see the less fortunate stay in less fortunate situations. The good news is we can all train ourselves to develop successful habits.
Well what defines success? What do successful people focus on? Why do some just have awesome relationships? What is the secret to have this fabulous life? How do you truely live with success, joy and peace?
Many people will relate success with money. True success is not about money, it’s about managing what you have well and living within your means. I am not talking about living poor or less fortunate. When you are Living with intentions to serve others and live out your true purpose by sharing your talents and gifts, you can live in a place of comfort and peace. We are all made different and we all love different things. When you really can identify what your true loves are and you can serve other people by using these gifts, you will live with true happiness. You will achieve the most success in your life. I know you have seen people live on small salaries. Some can live feeling miserable and envying everyone else. Others I have seen truly embrace and treasure right where they are. They are living with purpose and enjoying their life. They live well and successful because they are living the desires of their heart.
Successful people focus on the good. They look at their own life and use what they have been given to help others. Successful people are grateful and comfortable with what they do and how they act. They may not have everything everyone else has but they are content with what they have. Successful people do not compare their lives to others wishing they had what others have. Their focus is not things. When others are promoted or are moving forward with success stories, they are cheering them on and truly wishing them well.
Successful people look for the good in others. They find the best qualities in others verses focusing on the worst. There are not perfect people anywhere to be found on this earth, so expecting others to be perfect and act perfectly is an unrealistic expectation. Successful people give others the benefit of the doubt and believe the best about the people that surround them. Successful people forgive because they know that people will not always walk with the same ideas and standards. Successful people also realize they are not perfect and work hard to be excellent but forgive themselves when they fall short. They put theirselves in others shoes to try and understand verses be understood.
Successful people seek after excellence and being their best. They do not expect perfection but do try to do well in all areas of their lives. They manage the people around them and their relationship with respect. They take care of their basic needs so they can intentionally be good to the people that they serve in their own family, work and community.
The secret to having a fabulous life is seeing all the great things you have been blessed with. Looking at your life positively instead of negatively. You are in control of your thoughts. If you do not like your job, think about how excited you were when you were first hired. There are always other people that wish they had your position. If a relationship isn’t perfect, how would it be without that person in your life? Think back to when you first met that person. Maybe we need to change how we act toward them and be more appreciative for the things they do bring to the relationship.
Visualize your life the way you want it to be and start working toward getting it there. Talk about the positive things in your life. Your life will be as fabulous as you make it in your mind. It’s up to you to see all the good that surrounds you. If you feed the bad and focus on the bad things in your life and everything that isn’t perfect, those negative things will take over your thoughts. Your thoughts are what control your moods. Pretty soon the negative thoughts will start changing how you act, your motivation, your confidence and it can suck the joy right out of you.
Successful people are positive thinkers. Control your negative thoughts. The minute you have a negative thought creeping up on you, you can quickly turn it around. It’s like a bad headache, the longer you wait to take pain relievers the longer it takes for the headache to go away. My doctor says if you take pain reliever right away the minute you feel a headache coming on you most likely will feel fine in fifteen minutes. If you wait and hour and your headache gets stronger, its harder to get back to feeling good. If you take a negative thought and turn it around you hopefully will not affect your day, week, month, year, life… Get in the habit of squashing negative thoughts as soon as they enter your mind.
Example…. I don’t have any money in my check book but I can live on less and I will make it through. I may not know the solution right this minute but my God is taking care of all my worries today. Stay in Faith. I may feel sick and the Dr. Report isn’t good, but we have wonderful medical science that can heal me. My employer is looking at relocating people and I’m not sure who is picked next to go where, but I have a job and I get along with most people so I am not worried about this change. Life has always worked out in the past. It might not be what I want but I will be placed exactly where I need to be. When one door closes the other door opens.
Ok, but you might be dealing with a sickness or a financial situation or a terrible thing that you can not control. You can still be happy. Try not to focus on the problem. Focus on solutions. Easy to say, but not easy to do. Try not to give attention to your sickness. Do what you can to take care of yourself, believing you will get better. Follow the Dr. orders. If you are struggling with finances. Look for ways to help your financial situation by decreasing spending or generating more income, but do not let it steal your joy. Having to sell something or downsize does not mean you are a failure. You are actually smart to set yourself up to be successful financially. Each day you are here your life gets to be a wonderful testament to others. Take your problems to God and ask for his help, direction and wisdom. Let God do the worrying and you do the living.
Successful people have dreams and goals. They are not just living each day in everyday routine but are also setting goals and living their dreams. Each one of us has purpose and we are all gifted with different dreams, skills and interests. Pursue your dreams. Work toward what those dreams are. Be careful that other people do not destroy your dreams because they are not theirs. or because they do not understand how your vision will be played out. Only you have your dream inside you. You are the only one to make it come alive. Know your strengths, gifts and talents and do not be afraid to use them. The only time you fail when you are pursuing your dreams is if you never try to live them out. I’m not saying to give up your job, but I am encouraging you to find value in your unique dreams and put them to use when you are setting your goals.
Do something you love everyday. Do what you like such as; sing, play music, listen to music, spend time with your animals, play a game with your children,exercise, read, watch a great T.V. show, paint, etc. Reward yourself with something to look forward to after you have worked all day to be your best.
Yes, you can have a life filled with success. It’s up to you to change your outlook, think positively, find good in others, find solutions to problems, visualize your life as you want it to be, be forgiving of yourself and others, change where you need to to live within your means, live your dreams and set goals, do something you love everyday. Every life has purpose including yours. Make it a great life! You too can live with success, joy and peace.
Live Your Dreams, Share Your Talents,
Fill Your Purpose and Treasure Every Moment